The House of Mirth

I really enjoyed reading The House of Mirth, and learning about the way the upper class lived to just have a good time and be entertained.  It seemed to be such a shallow existence. Lily Bart, in her pursuit of a wealthy husband makes many poor decisions, which ultimately ends with her death.

      For Lily, all the emphasis is put on her looks and that she is very beautiful. The fact that she is getting older, and the social whirl is taking its toll on her as Seldon noticed, “under her dark hat and veil she regained the girlish smoothness, the purity of tint, that she was beginning to lose after eleven years of late hours and indefatigable dancing.”(p. 1-2) That Lily is 29, and still not married and her looks are starting to fade is of great concern. This is an issue that women must contend within our society today. That outward appearance is so important, and women are always being sent the message to do everything to retain their youthful appearance and beauty. Poor Lily has to hear from Mrs. Fisher, “Your hair’s wonderful, Lily. Thinner-what does it matter? It’s so light and alive.”(p.196)

        The women in the book are always focused on their beautiful clothes and jewels, and are purely ornamental. They are to be a reflection of their husband’s wealth and success, and have no power of their own. In Lily’s case, her beauty and lively personality has made her popular, but once she falls out of favor with Bertha Dorset, it’s almost as if she has become invisible. She doesn't have the protection of a wealthy husband, so her status has changed drastically. I think this can also apply today for women who are single, have little financial security, and can be viewed differently in society. I think we still see that same type of status for women who have successful spouses which place them in a higher financial and social level which gives them a certain amount of power, in comparison to someone like Lily who is totally alone.

        I really wanted Lily to stand up for herself, and use the letters to put a stop to Bertha Dorset. However, I could see the position Lily was in, and being so alone, made it a difficult decision for her. Again, she didn’t have the same power as the wealthy women, and it may not have made a difference or have them accept her back into their high society group.